This essay,
If I'm Perfect Just The Way I Am Then Why Don't I Feel
Great?,
is the companion piece to
Getting Better.
You're perfect - just the way you are, and just the way you aren't.
Yet the conversation you are for yourself is you're not
perfect, and you should have more and you should be
better and you should be different, and
something's wrong
...
It's just a conversation! You can't shift being not perfect because you
ARE perfect - just the way you are, just the way you aren't. What you
shift is the conversation you are for yourself.
And the way you shift the conversation you are for yourself is you
don't!
Implicit in the conversation you are for yourself is you should have
more and you should be better and you should be different than the way
you are now.
That's the trap right there. Human beings are crazy about having more
and being better and being different. We want to have more and be
better and be different more than we want sex. And we're totally
addicted to sex. We just don't tell the truth about it.
The conversation you are for yourself will shift inside of you just
letting it be there and telling the truth about it without trying to
change it. The conversation you are for yourself gets very loud (and
therefore more permanent) if you're not telling the truth about it.
I really don't know where you're not telling the truth in the
conversation you are for yourself. I can't read minds. The truth of the
matter is all of us aren't telling the truth about some things about
ourselves. All of us are, quite literally,
impostors
with regard to
who we really are.
When you start to tell the truth, unflinchingly, about
who you really are,
space to grow and room to move opens up. While this affords growth and
movement, it won't change you one iota.