Take for example the often touted "Nobody's doing it to you except
yourself.". Is this true? Is this "the truth"?
Nobody's Doing It To You Except Yourself
Whether it's the one or the other is all in the way you speak
it. More importantly, whether it's useful or not
is all in the way you speak it. When I inquire into if it's
"useful" or not, I'm asking whether or not it's spoken in a way
which can be heard ie whether or not it can be
listened in a way which opens new possibilities for
Before we flesh out whether "Nobody's doing it to you except
yourself" is true or whether it's "the truth",
here are four possible implications for "Nobody's doing it to you
Knowingly or unknowingly (most likely unknowingly) causing an
emotion which doesn't work for you
eg you learned an emotion from your family when transformation
wasn't present. It didn't work for you then and it doesn't work
for you now, yet you continue replicating it honoring your
without distinguishing it still doesn't work for you now.
Knowingly or unknowingly (most likely unknowingly) placing
yourself in a situation in which you become the victim, which
doesn't work for you
eg taking a short cut through a dark alley on the bad side of the
train tracks at night alone.
Knowingly or unknowingly (most likely unknowingly) attracting a
consequence which doesn't work for you
otherwise known as karma. While I don't require the
concept of or the dogma of or the doctrine of or even the
excuse of karma as an axiom, as a building
to refer to attracting a consequence as karma is
good enough for
Knowingly or unknowingly (most likely unknowingly) not taking
responsibility for an experience, which doesn't work for you
and you're always responsible for your experiences
like a possibility.
If you say to someone "Nobody's doing it to you except yourself"
like an armchair pundit or like a Monday morning
quarterback or even like a coach when your coaching
hasn't been explicitly requested, while it may be true,
when it's spoken as if it's "the truth" it almost
always lands as blame or shame with no created space in which
anything new can be heard or gotten like a possibility. It
can land as a condemnation rather than as a
It's almost impossible to get it when you're blamed, shamed, or
condemned. It's very easy to get it when you're clear.