There are
ways
I
relate
to the
circumstances
of
my life
which, when I tell
the truth
about them, differ markedly when I'm
relating
to
circumstances
in which I'm enjoying myself ie
circumstances
in which things are (for want of a better
way
of saying it) "going well", than when I'm
relating
to
circumstances
which test me ie when I'm
relating
to
circumstances
which try me. Furthermore, I notice I have less inclination and / or
tendency to manage or change my
circumstances
when things are going well, than I have when things try me. It's
probably more than that. It's probably
closer
to
the truth
to say that in
circumstances
in which things are going well, I have very little or even
no tendency to manage or change my
circumstancesat all. There's
nothing
unusual about that. It's a very
humanway
to be. If things are going well, I leave them alone. More than that, I
would assert that's not even uniquely moi. I'll venture ie I'll
ante up ie I'll stake it's probably
true
for all of us.
We have preferences. You have preferences. I have preferences.
Having preferences is a characteristic in chief of
being human.
Arguably it's impossible to separate
being human
from having preferences. Yet I notice it's the arbitrary
way
in which I designate
circumstances
as preferable or not ie it's the capricious
way
in which I prefer some
circumstances
and don't prefer others which, when I confront it, tells me there's an
opportunity for an epic
breakthrough
in
the way
the
circumstances
of
my life
occur for me ie
show up
for me, and in
the way
I occur ie
show up
for the
circumstances
of
my life.
Here's what I've noticed in this regard (this is
my thesis):
In the midst of
circumstances
I'd prefer were nothappening,
what I've
got
going on (like an intoning, chanting
monk
in the
background)
is "This too shall pass, this too shall pass
...". Mind you, that's not a bad
context
in which to hold them. It's actually smart (it's very
smart). It's certainly
true:
given the inexorable passage of
time,
anything and everything will pass.
Circumstances
are like the weather: if you don't like what's going on at any
particular
moment,
wait a while and it'll change. That said, what I've noticed about "This
too shall pass" as a
context,
is it diminishes
who I really am
(plus there's a naïve holding back embedded in it, I
might add).