Conversations For Transformation: Essays Inspired By The Ideas Of Werner Erhard

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Say Whatever's There

Muir Beach, California, USA

March 24, 2010



"It's OK the way it is."  ... 
This essay, Say Whatever's There, is the companion piece to A Place In My Heart Which Doesn't Always See Enough ight Of Day.

I am indebted to Michael Reid who inspired this conversation, and to Nancy Scott who contributed material.




This conversation isn't "the truth". Rather it's a powerful platform on which to stand and look at whatever's  going on with you.

Whatever's going on with you is OK the way it is. Really  it is. It may not always feel  like it. It may not always look  like it. But it's OK the way it is. Really! ... it is. You're fine just the way you are, and just the way you aren't.

It's the way it is whether you don't like  the way it is or whether you like  the way it is. Not liking  the way it is is just voting. Liking  the way it is is also  just voting. It's the way it is whether you vote against  the way it is or whether you vote for  the way it is. Voting both against and for the way it is simply adds more inauthenticity.

Given you're human, it's harder to get it exactly the way it is when you don't like the way it is. Given you're human, it's easier to get it exactly the way it is when you like the way it is even though  neither not liking the way it is nor voting against the way it is nor liking the way it is nor voting for the way it is makes any difference at all.

Having whatever's going on with you be OK the way it is ie getting clear  about the way it is requires getting clear about whatever's there  - without bias, without preference. Given you're human, you're biased and you've got preferences. If you tell the truth about it, you'll notice neither your bias nor your preferences have much power, sway, or influence over what's going on with you. Getting clear about what's going on with you requires a certain rigor  to not distinguish only  that which you like ie to not distinguish only  that which you vote for. It also  requires distinguishing evenhandedly that which you don't like ie that which you vote against. It requires you evenhandedly say whatever's there, with the emphasis on "whatever's"  there. When you say whatever's there, you say anything and everything  that's there, regardless of your personal preference.

To be clear in this  conversation, don't blur, don't confuse, don't obfuscate, don't misalign with "say whatever's there"  - nor, for that matter, with each other. There's nothing inherently wrong with speaking your mind - unless it sanctifies venting  ie not being responsible for your communication. There's nothing inherently wrong with telling it like it is - unless you don't own it's always and only your opinion ie your point of view  of how it is. Neither "speak your mind" nor "tell it like it is" are implied by (and neither of them are the same as) "say whatever's there".

When you say whatever's there, you say whatever's going on in your experience right now  - without embellishment, without explanation, without excuse, without interpretation, without analysis, nakedly, unflinchingly, openly, honestly. The access  to getting clear with whatever's there ie the access to getting clear with whatever's going on with you is to simply look. Look into the space ... and say whatever's there - as if in answer to the inquiry "What's there?". Say only  whatever's there ie say only whatever's going on in your experience right now  - no embellishing, no explaining, no apologizing nor excusing, no translating or interpreting, no analyzing. Just nakedly, unflinchingly, openly, honestly say whatever's there.

In this process you wouldn't answer the question "What's there?" for example with "I feel happy". That's what you're feeling  not what you're seeing  in the space. Neither would you say "I feel happy because  ..." and nor would you say "I'm happy which means  ...". Instead, in answer to "What's there?" you may say "Happiness". In this process you wouldn't answer for example "I feel sad". That's what you're feeling not what you're seeing in the space. Instead, in answer to "What's there?" you may say "Sadness". You may say "Frustration". You may say "Defeat". You may say "Love". You may say "Enthusiasm".

You may see and say experiences you wish you don't have like sadness, frustration, and defeat. You may see and say experiences you enjoy like love and enthusiasm. What's interesting about this process is when you can see and say, clear and straight, those experiences you wish you don't have like sadness, frustration, defeat et al, only then can you start getting leverage over ie only then can you start getting mastery over all of it  being OK the way it is given we're already thrown  to deem those experiences we enjoy  to be OK the way it is. Just remember there's no guaranteed relationship between, there's no promised correlation with ie there may not always be congruency  in the way it is and what you enjoy.

The first step towards having sadness be OK the way it is is to see it for what it is right now  - say whatever's there, without embellishment, without explanation, without excuse, without interpretation, without analysis, nakedly, unflinchingly, openly, honestly. Don't say "I'm sad" - as bold and as unflinching as this particular form of the expression is. Say "There's sadness.". Say whatever's there. The first step towards having frustration be OK the way it is is to see it for what it is right now  - say whatever's there, without embellishment, without explanation, without excuse, without interpretation, without analysis, nakedly, unflinchingly, openly, honestly. Don't say "I'm frustrated" - as bold and as unflinching as this particular form of the expression is. Say "There's frustration.". Say whatever's there. The first step towards having defeat be OK the way it is is to see it for what it is right now  - say whatever's there, without embellishment, without explanation, without excuse, without interpretation, without analysis, nakedly, unflinchingly, openly, honestly. Don't say "I'm defeated" - as bold and as unflinching as this particular form of the expression is. Say "There's defeat.". Say whatever's there.

Don't try to change what's going on with you. Don't avoid it. Don't add to  it. Don't take away from it or fix it. Keep your fingers out of the machinery.

Let whatever's going on with you be going on with you. Let it be there. Sit with it in your lap ... like a hot brick. Don't do anything with it. It's OK the way it is.

Just say whatever's there.



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