Now with all that said, I'd like to
something profound I
It goes to
the heart of the
of the enormous
Jolin is in
regardless of the fact that we're no longer married, regardless of
the fact that our lives are now in different orbits. Since we were
has been a series of trials doing what I had to do to
myself back in
again (divorce is a body blow - make no mistake). I
back on track. I
my finances back on track. I
back on track. Most important, I
with each of my precious
back on track. All of the above took thirteen years in total.
Then one day I was shaving, looking at myself in my bathroom
quietly and privately
this turnaround (this impossible turnaround). I had
against all odds, and I was feeling pretty good ie I was feeling
pretty cocky as they say in Merrye Olde
Englande. And what I was feeling pretty cocky about was
I had triumphed over the seemingly impossible odds
alone ... and that's when I heard a
saying "Oh, so you think you bore and raised your three
all by yourself
I got it.
That's when it hit me - and I said to the
I love you!
Thank you! Thank you so much!".
(or at least that's the genesis of
the five of us came to be seated in Aroma
Cuisine, the nice yet very
restaurant on a tree-lined street in Benicia, California at around
7:30pm on Friday November 10, 2017 eating dinner, together in the
same place at the same
for the first
in thirteen years.
of the five of us experiencing
cohesion, and unity - but when
is told, that
has less to do with the legal and institutionalized agreement of
marriage than we
We'd like them to go together. We want them to go together. We
expect they'd go together. And often they don't. We've
found out (sometimes to our surprise, oftentimes to our chagrin)
that just being married neither guarantees nor safeguards the
cohesion, and unity - if it did, all married couples'
it, and the divorce statistics wouldn't be as outrageous as they