Jeez! Is this just another trite platitude in the genre? Oh no! What on
Earth
does it even mean,
Laurence Platt(itude):
"the secret
to being fulfilled is don't be un-fulfilled"? Isn't "be
fulfilled" and "don't be unfulfilled" really just the same point on a
circular
path?
and to become fulfilled, couldn't you
begin
with either?
I know. It is counter-intuitive, that's for sure. But then again, a lot
of transformative*
thinking,
semantics, and
language
is very counter-intuitive. So don't go dismissing it out of hand
without first trying it on for size. What "trying it on for size" means
is letting go of your own already-assessment of them being on a
circular
path.
If you don't do that (that's really better stated as "if
we don't do that" because we all do it), what we all end
up with is what we already got: not being fulfilled ie being
unfulfilled then
trying to fix being
unfulfilledin order to become fulfilled. So now I'm asking you to let go of
what you already got, to stand outside of it. I'm asking you to look
and see if
"the secret
to being fulfilled is don't be unfulfilled", when gotten newly,
actually has enormous value.
Let's
begin
with: I assert becoming fulfilled is not a cause
célèbre. Really. Life in its natural state, is
fulfilled like a possibility. To live life's natural state, is
to be fulfilled. It's axiomatic: when we live life in its natural
state, we're fulfilled - or at least when we live life in its natural
state (which means nothing less and nothing more than when we just
be), it goeswith (as
Alan Watts
may have said) being fulfilled. There's nothing that's required, to be
fulfilled. Being fulfilled is our true nature. And I'm asking
you to
begin
with being already fulfilled like a possibility, not with
trying to fix being
unfulfilled
in order to become fulfilled.
But doesn't that trivialize becoming fulfilled? Doesn't that
marginalize the whole problem of being unfulfilled? Aren't they the
same point on a circular
path?
Consider the problem of being unfulfilled: the problem of being
unfulfilled is that we add it to life's natural state of
being fulfilled. That's a big problem. We don't allow for life to be
exactly the way it is. We pile on "This isn't it.". More
that that, we pile on "This can't be it.". We pile on
"Life isn't fulfilling" and / or (even worse) "Life
can't be fulfilling" which we then live as a
self-fulfilling prophesy ie which we then live as a
self-un-fulfilling prophesy. We are that life isn't
fulfilling, that it can't be fulfilling ... and eventually it really
does occur as unfulfilling. Then we're unfulfilled - which we cement in
place by justifying it.
Ergo,
the secret
to being fulfilled is don't be unfulfilled - as
simple
and as platitudinous as it sounds. Consider that it really is as
simple
as that: just give up piling on being unfulfilled! Don't strive to
become fulfilled: rather, let go of piling on being unfulfilled. Give
it up. This IS it. Exactly like this, exactly this way,
life itself
is already fulfilled.
Life itself
already goeswith being fulfilled, still we keep piling on being
unfulfilled. How so? We keep piling it on through
linguistic acts
like justifications, judgements,
opinions,
interpretations,
and
beliefs).
Stop doing that. Let it go. Stop
trying to fix
being unfulfilled in order to become fulfilled. Stop piling on being
unfulfilled. Without piling on being unfulfilled, what's there is just
being, exactly the way it is, already fulfilled - like a possibility.
This is the
no-secretsecret
to being fulfilled: don't be unfulfilled. Don't add it, don't pile it
on, don't justify it, and don't lie about it. It's
simple,
so
simple
...