There are various ways you can relate to
- you know, that
in your head, ever the critic, pontificating on how things ought to be?
(not to mention making excuses for your own behavior).
People who are invested in the first
"woulda, coulda, shoulda"
have a look of being old before their time
it's hard living life when it isn't OK the way it is ...).
Not being congruent with the reality of age in a hard life which is
never entirely satisfying, they say things like "You're only as old as
Here's the thing about relating to age with "You're only as old as you
feel" (or about relating to age with "You're only as young
as you feel" for that matter): it isn't simply that both statements
reveal our propensity to use what we feel (that is to say
to use our
as a tenuous baseline for reality. Rather it's only the statement
"You're only as old as you feel" which has any old in it,
just as it's only the statement "You're only as young as you feel"
which has any young in it. Neither "old" nor "young" can
be measured accurately by the
- in spite of our oftentimes
insistence on using the
as a yardstick for age (or as a yardstick for anything else, for that
both "old" and "young" are entirely subjective.
Internal statessimply aren't smart enough to make accurate age
assessments ie age assessments which objectively match perfectly with a
clock or a calendar, the true yardsticks for age.
What may have more utility for relating to age ie what may have more
pragmatic practicality for relating to age than "You're
only as old as you feel", is the statement "You're only as old as
you are.". In other
"Your age is your age" (in
there's ease and
yes?). It's undoubtedly true your age is your age. But
it's more than that actually. It's when you let your age be your age,
when you let your age be what it is, when you let your age be what's
true, when you let your age be
then leave it alone rather than futz with it ie rather
than kowtow to the
assessment of old or young, it's likely to make fewer lines on your
(and erase some which are already there).
It's not unusual for people who've recently completed
for the first time, to be met with an incredulous "There's something
about you that's different: you look ... well ... younger