"Oh no no no" he says smiling, "that's total b*llsh*t" (the dazzling smile) "... just ... don't ... be ... late ..." he says, extending his extraordinarily long right arm towards me, karate-chopping the air as he speaks, emphasizing each word "don't" ... "be" ... "late".
And I get it. Man! I get it immediately. I get it so fast that I can't believe I got it. I mean I've got so many reasons why I'm always late - which is what he and I are talking about. But he doesn't challenge me with better reasons or counter-reasons for being on time instead. No, he cuts through all of it by being in such a way that reveals my always being late, as a racket I run. Immediately I get that if I drop the racket, I can be on time. I don't need a course in time management. I don't need a reason or a "How to be on time" lesson. No, this is not to be gotten in that way. Instead it's an instantaneous "get". Wow!
So why such a dramatic impact, so quickly, so easily? I've looked at that. My first answer is authentic: it's "I don't know why.". Being with him the way he's being, I experience being in a racket-free zone. Without the racket "being late", I can be on time? I don't know why.
My second answer is that being late, may really just be a matter of holding back ie of not participating fully in life. But I've discarded my second answer as it needs some explanation which not only do I not require, but which actually procrastinates more by getting in the way. My first answer, on the other hand, just plain works.
The basketball professional / human praying mantis smiles, dazzling me with his total compassion. The breakthrough is complete, beyond time. Now I can be on time.
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