In a transformed life, there are no solutions - only questions. Yet one
of the solutions I am most often asked for is the solution to being
upset.
You are sailing along, happily, in your transformed yacht on a
transformed ocean under a cloudless, blue, transformed sky with nothing
but transformed intentions, when suddenly ... Wham! ... there it is:
the disruption and the dislocation of an upset making it's unwanted,
ugly presence known suddenly, surprisingly, unexpectedly,
automatically, and rudely against your will.
While I do not have a solution for that, it is useful to consider this:
Behind every upset is a commitment.
Literally, if you are not already committed to something, you can not
be upset. Or - to put it another way - you are not upset unless it is
against a background of commitment.
No, I do not mean that you are committed to being upset. What I mean is
that if you look, you will see that without a commitment to something
great being thwarted, upsets would not show up like upsets.
I am suggesting that you question everything that is going on with you
when you are upset to reveal and get back in touch with what you are
really committed to. Not only will that give you your vision and power
back, but it will also create a new opening for action to get you back
on track.
Werner Erhard distinguishes an upset is comprised of:
a thwarted intention;
an unfulfilled expectation;
an undelivered communication.
You do not have to do anything, nor do you have to be any particular
way to be OK. You are already OK. If you look at an upset in the light
of that you are already OK, you will be able to tell the truth about
the upset, and you will be able to distinguish the three items that
comprise it.
If you take the appropriate actions to complete those items, you will
get your life back. You will be enabled to move on into the
breakthrough that awaits.