I am indebted to Nassrin Haghighat who inspired this conversation,
and to Bruce Terrell who contributed material.
There's never a worse time or a better time
to share yourself. There's never a worse place or a better
place to share yourself. It's always now
(what better time is there?); it's always here (what
better place is there?), and you're already yourself. If it's a
good time to share yourself, then share yourself. If it's
a bad time to share yourself, then it's a really a good
time to practice sharing yourself in bad times, so share
yourself. When you've mastered sharing yourself in bad
times, then the bad times are good. So even the bad times are good for
sharing yourself (as Brian Poole may have said).
You may not get anything in return for sharing yourself. There's no
guarantee you will. And you may. But you don't need anything in return
to validate or to reward sharing yourself. Sharing yourself is its own
validation and its own reward. If you have it that it requires getting
something in return to validate or to reward sharing yourself, then
sharing yourself that way is arguably
ie it's not what it appears to be - it's more likely closer akin to
manipulation than it is to sharing.
Share yourself regardless of whether you
you'll get anything in return, or not. That's not to be taken as
encouragement nor as a motivational directive but rather
as a clarification: it's just
about what it takes to really share yourself ie what it
takes to make available who you really are. Once you start
manipulating the environment to make it conducive to sharing yourself
before you start sharing yourself, once you start bargaining with
circumstance to make it easier to be who you really are,
something is imposed which effectively obfuscates being
who you really are.
Listen: this doesn't
authentic occasions for manipulating the environment and bargaining
with circumstance. Nor does it suggest
requires renouncing profit, not profiting at all, or retiring to a
and giving up all your worldly possessions. Rather, it points to the
"Go!" switch for sharing yourself as totally distinct
from environment, circumstance, and profit.
"If you don't take it out
into the world, you didn't get it in the first place.".
is only useful when it's taken out into the world. In life you can be
who you really are, and you can profit - both. But if you're being who
you really are only in order to profit, something is
blurred which effectively stops the authentic expression
of who you really are. Do it for nothing. Share yourself in order to
share yourself ... for no other reason. If you
must have a reason for sharing yourself, try this: share
yourself because you say you'll share yourself ... for no
Sharing yourself isn't a function of feeling good. Beware of
having whenever you feel good, as the only good time to share
yourself. Sharing yourself isn't a function of having your act
together. Beware of having whenever you've got your act together,
as the only good time to share yourself. Really sharing yourself is an
act of intention - anytime, under any circumstances. As a matter of
fact, there's really no other way to share yourself unless
it's done intentionally ie an act of intention.
Share yourself with anyone and everyone. Share yourself with those you
consider to be enlightened (which, by the way, is called
preaching to the choir) and equally with those you
consider to be unenlightened. See if you're thrown
to share yourself less readily with those you consider to be
unenlightened. See if you can distinguish your judgement in the matter
(which, by the way, is really a form of prejudice). What, for
example, does your judging
tell you about those it considers to be unenlightened? Notice whether
you have it that your judging
is accurate in its assessment, or not.
Share yourself regardless of whether you get love back or not. See if
you can distinguish whether or not you only share yourself when you
know you'll get love back. See if you can distinguish whether or not if
you've determined in advance you won't get love back, then you'll back
off from sharing yourself.
Share yourself as an act of intention in order to share yourself as
an act of intention. No other reason. No other validation. No other
reward. Do it for nothing.