"Everyone you've known" includes everyone you know, and everyone you
will know. Interimly it also includes everyone who's known you,
everyone who knows you, and everyone who will know you, and it also
includes you knowing yourself. Ultimately it includes everyone
others have known, everyone others know, and everyone others will know.
It's the entire spectrum of all
humanrelationships.
If you tell
the truth
about it, you'll notice there are degrees of
completion
you experience with everyone you've known. You're
complete
with some people. You aren't
complete
with others. And the Petri dish in which
transformationshows up
ie the
beingsphere,
just
works
better when you're
complete
with everyone you've known.
When I first embarked at
Werner's
suggestion, on the
project of getting complete
with everyone I've known,
it was
clear
the list of people I came up with, with whom I was incomplete, was a
long, long list indeed. It was daunting - intimidating actually (even
scary) - just looking at it. As a subset of the list of
everyone I've known in my entire life, the people with whom I was
incomplete, were easier to recall than those with whom I was
complete.
I set out to get complete
with each one of them.
For me,
gettingcomplete
with everyone I've known, means
getting
myself to a space with each one of them where they can finally be OK
with me ie where they can be
perfect
just the way they are and just the way they aren't. In
some cases I looked forward to
seeing
them again and having this
conversation
with them
face to face.
In other cases, I either wasn't planning on
seeing
them again, or I couldn't track them down, or they'd
passed away.
What I soon realized against the
backgroundcommitment
to
getcomplete
with every one of them, was even if people with whom I'm incomplete,
have
passed away
or can't be located or I wasn't planning on
seeing
them again, I can still get to that space with each one of them where
they're
perfect
with me - just the way they are and just the way they aren't.
But it's more than simply being
complete
with everyone I've known, which was the alluring
proposition
in this project for me. It's more than the cleaner take I
get on my life and on
Life itself
when I get to that space where I can hold everyone I've known as
perfect.
It's much more than that. It's I've noticed it's almost impossible to
really
love
another when I can't hold them as
perfect
just the way they are and just the way they aren't. It's also almost
impossible for me to live even the slightest semblance of a
transformed
life when I can't generate (or when I'm unwilling to generate) being
complete
with each and every single person I've ever known. Really.
I'll stake it's one of the most powerful implements there is, with
which to leverage your
personaltransformation:
rather than bringing
the light
to bear on yourself and your
personal business
and issues, what
works
better is bringing
the light
to bear on the people in your life ie on everyone you've known, and
getting
complete
with every one of them. I promise the results will be dramatic,
far-reaching, and profound. Everyone you've known, really comprises
the whole world
of people
out-here
in the
beingsphere.
And it's
out-here
where
transformationshows up.
Listen:
this is where
transformation
has alwaysshown up.
Indeed, it's really the only place it can.