I am indebted to Commander Dreyvan Dayse,
Navy (ret), and to Owen Gusman who inspired this conversation, and to
George Swan who contributed material.
You all remember the first occasion you rode a bicycle successfully
without falling down. Even if you didn't say it this way at that tender
age, what you did was you distinguished balance. From then on,
it wasn't necessary to first distinguish balance before riding your
bike again: you simply got on and rode. Balance, once distinguished, is
permanently imprinted. And once you'd distinguished balance, riding
your bike (and everything else in the entire physical universe, for
that matter) entered a new realm of possibility.
You also remember the first time you distinguished
And once you'd distinguished
honoring your word,
living and life itself entered a new realm of possibility in which
a pivotal role, if not the essential role. Yet although
doesn't imprint like balance. It's not its nature. Unlike balance,
you have to generate
again and again over and over and over on each and every single
That's the essence of a
and I were enjoying in which he was
on having distinguished balance once and, from then on, never losing
it. He was, from then on, never off balance (so to
- or we also could say he was "never out of balance" if
you will. But he was, as he ruefully noted, unable to get to the same
ie a place where, having distinguished it once, he would be, from then
on, "never out of
He knows the cost of being out of balance. Yet he doesn't have to
generate balance over and over again. Balance imprints. Yet even
the cost of being out of
he has to generate
over and over again.
doesn't imprint like balance - even though knowing the cost of being
imprints. This is
it is with
I get that being in
is like climbing a
(it's not like walking on flat ground - that's too pedestrian). And
it's actually more than like merely climbing a
it's like climbing a
mountainwith no top, so you can never make it to the top. More than
that, this topless
mountainkeeps on growing, so even when you think you've made it to the
top, you're not there yet! In this case, it's best to
learn to love the climb.
So it's naïve to
of being in
in the same breath as acquiring balance.
not like that. That's not the way it
generated. It's not imprinted ie it doesn't imprint.
The implications of these assertions perhaps fill some of the gaps in
our knowledge of
nature. People who grew up in an environment with no
can still generate
And people who grew up in an environment withintegrity,
may not generate
Vice versa, the same could be said for whomever's pulled away from
People who grew up in an environment with
may not recognize the pull away from
and then live out of
And people who grew up in an environment with nointegrity,
may yet recognize the pull away from
and then choose to generate
isn't a function of the environment we grew up in. It's a
we freely and ongoingly choose to take. It's not conditioned behavior.
doesn't imprint like balance.