There's a quality I notice which speaks louder than their words (yet
which vouches for their words ie which
authenticates their words) coming from people who are
powerful coaches for me distinguishing what it takes to be a stand
bringing forth transformation. It's not a way they act and
neither is it a presentation appropriate role they take on
- like a doctor should have a good bedside manner or a
waitress or a sales assistant should be polite and be
helpful or a dance instructor should be adept at the
cha cha. It's not a quality of doing. It's none of that
sort of thing.
It's a quality of being. It's the way they are
about Life. It's the way they are about their lives. It's the way they
are as a conversation. It's the way they are with what it is
they're speaking and listening in conversation exactly. While there are
many perfectly good adjectives in the English language which relate to
this quality (for example: clear, straight, intentional, on
purpose, focused, undistracted,
rigorous),
There's none which totally nails it for me in the way it's
most powerfully exemplified. So I use an unorthodox expression in lieu
of it.
The unorthodox expression I use in lieu of it which accurately conveys
this quality for me is "unmessable". The people who are powerful
coaches for me distinguishing what it takes to be a stand for
transformation are unmessable. I can be with them.
I can
communicate
with them. I can even co-author and co-create
with them. But I can't mess with them. They're unmessable.
They're unmessable with.
"Unmessable" isn't mainstream English - at least not yet
... although I notice it's slowly starting to appear, to blend
unofficially into colloquial use. Furthermore I assert in
the annals of inventing and sharing transformation, possibility, and
enrollment, it'll soon become de rigueur. And I for one would
like to support and promote its acceptance by including it in
The Laurence Platt Dictionary:
<quote>
Definition
unmessable
adjective
being a ruthless, unflinching, unswerving yet compassionate stand,
particularly for transformation, possibility, and enrollment
<unquote>
If you live in a
Zenmonastery
you're likely to be momentarily caught off guard if the
master
jumps out when you least expect him, and
whacks
you with a wooden sword. But pretty soon you'll realize it's why
you're here. If you live in a
Zenmonastery
you're here to cause a
breakthrough
in
being presentwhen you're not
being present.
It's the
master's
job to be ruthless, to be clear, to be straight, to be
intentional, to be on purpose, to be focused, to be
undistracted, to be
rigorous,
to be unmessable with in reminding you when you're not
being present.
And if you make excuses for not
being present
when he
whacks
you, then with a bit of
luck
he'll
whack
you again ... that is, if he's really a
master
worth
training
with.
When you're really being a stand for transformation, you
show uprigorously
and appropriately when people aren't
being present.
You're unmessable with. Compassionate - yes. But ambiguous, unclear,
swayable, distractable, uninspired, buy-able - no. You're
unmessable.
