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Without experiencing something directly, you're not qualified to say what it is. This isn't rocket science. Without experiencing something directly, anything you say about it doesn't reflect what it really is. Rather, anything you say about it simply reflects whatever you consider it to be. Graduates who resisted what they considered Werner's work to be at first, paradoxically discover it's Werner's work which differentiates experiencing something directly, from what we consider it to be. <un-aside> |
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Be careful. Be very careful. The only basis on which I (or anyone else, for that matter) can authentically say resisting transformation is automatic, is by looking at my own experience of how I am when I resist transformation. There's no finger pointing here. It took me a while before I could unflinchingly tell the difference between what looks like my intentional resistance to transformation (ie as if I have a choice in the matter), and what's really just automaticity. The machine I am, the machine we are, is thrown to resist transformation. That's its job. <un-aside> |
1) | To recognize our automatic resistance to transformation, and thereby allow for this resistance and create space for it, in others and in ourselves, without blame or judgement. |
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Ordinarily we deal with our resistance and pay scant attention to who we really are. Instead, deal with who we really are and pay scant attention to our resistance (as Werner Erhard may have said). <un-aside> |
2) | To recognize some of the ways you and I resist transformation automatically - so they become apparent, and a choice to freely get off it emerges. |
1) |
I ALREADY KNOW THIS
I can't hear anything newly like transformation through a closed listening which compares everything I hear, to that which I already know. When it comes to listening transformation newly, saying "I already know this" is tantamount to saying "I'm not listening at all.". It's tantamount to saying "I'm resisting hearing this.". Neither statement, by the way, is worse or better than the other. The second one, however, especially when listening transformation through "I already know this", is at least more truthful. |
2) |
IT'S ALL ABOUT ME
Listening transformation through "It's all about ME!" ("... and therefore I'm rightfully the center of attention") is a possibility killer. Life isn't about me. Life is about everyone and everything, with no one and nothing left out. So when I have Life as "It's all about me", that's not Life. That's resisting Life. That's a subset of Life, a way of being called surviving. Surviving is the way of the ego rather than the way of the being. If it can be said transformation is the contradistinction of anything, then it's the contradistinction of survival. |
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Saying transformation is the contradistinction of survival doesn't mean it's better than survival or better than surviving. What it means is transformation can't be listened through survival - at least, not easily. And if transformation is listened through survival and is heard, that's what we call a breakthrough. <un-aside> |
In this sense,
transformation
could be said to be intrusive to the position "It's
all about ME!". When anything is believed to be
intrusive, a survival reflex
resists
it. Survival will always
resist
transformation.
That's it's nature. If it were easier than that, the whole world
would be
transformed
by now.
Transformation is prior to survival. It's the context for survival. It takes an act of generosity to give up survival in the face of transformation. It requires boldness and verve to relinquish "It's all about ME!" in the face of transformation. |
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3) |
YOU CAN'T CON ME
There's a certain resistance, a fixed way of listening which shows up around speaking transformation which assumes Conversations For Transformation are a con, a slick trick to render a sucker out of the gullible. And the way this particular fixed way of listening shows up is disguised as an intelligent protection: "I'm intelligent, so I'll protect myself from being conned. I'll out-smart the con-ner. You can't make a sucker out of me!". The trouble is you've already been conned ... You're already not being who you really are. You've already learned. Man! Have you already learned ... and it's already ground into you that you can't get along simply by being who you really are. You've already learned how to survive by not being who you really are. In this way, we've all already been conned. We've all already been conned into not being who we really are. In this way, we're all impostors - every one of us. Transformation is the UN-con. Yet we resist it anyway - which is to say the machinery resists it anyway. But that's the machinery's job! And the moment you get it's the machinery's job to resist transformation, a clearing to be who we really are becomes available, often for the first time ever. Stepping boldly out into this clearing starts the process of being un-conned. |
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