1) |
Your
interpretation
of what happened.
I come home with the results of my school test. I've improved my grade from a C to a B+. I'm very happy with this result. I tell my my mother I got a B+. She says "You get a D- for the state of your room, young man. Go tidy it. It's a mess.". Clearly, my mother doesn't love me. If she did, she'd celebrate my C becoming a B+ with me. I steadfastly march a certain way into the future from then on, knowing my mother doesn't love me. What I don't know is: my mother doesn't love me isn't "the truth". What I don't know is: "my mother doesn't love me" isn't real. What I don't know is: I interpreted "my mother doesn't love me" based on she told me to go tidy my room. I use "my mother doesn't love me" as the basis of many conclusions in my life from then on, with predictably unexpected and unwanted results, for example: getting upset when my accomplishments aren't noticed, being impatient with people who don't accurately hear what I tell them, becoming sad when I'm not loved by someone I love. You've got to be willing to consider nothing happened other than what you say happened. You've got to be willing to consider nothing happened other than what you interpreted as what happened. If you're not willing to consider nothing happened other than what you interpreted as what happened, you can't get you're cause in the matter. If you can't get you're cause in the matter, you can't recontextualize the source incident. If you can't recontextualize the source incident, you can't get to choice in the matter of the source incident, which means it will always run you. |
2) |
The kind of person you declared you would be from that moment
on.
In any moment, declaring the kind of person you'll be from then on is the single most powerful fulcrum of possibility a human being has access to. However, without re-establishing choice in the matter surrounding the source incident, without being willing to consider you chose the way you'd be from then on, declaring the kind of person you'd be from then on is a trap, replete with chains, shackles, and the obligatory arrow shot through the heart. If you re-establish choice in the matter surrounding the source incident and the kind of person you declared you'd be from then on, a new possibility emerges: the possibility of being renewed and authentic. When my mother didn't love me (that is to say when I interpreted my mother doesn't love me), I declared I wouldn't share my accomplishments. I declared the kind of person I would be from then on would be independent and self-contained ie someone who would take care of himself. Ordinarily, this way of being would be considered virtuous. The trouble is when there's no choice in the matter ie when I'm being this way as a reaction, it's a trap. It's more than a trap, actually: it's a life long trap. Getting back to the source incident and my interpretation of it, of the kind of person I declared I would be from that moment on begins breaking up the fixed way of being, the fixed way of being which invariably brings upset, impatience, and sadness in all future incidents which it's the core of. Getting back to the source incident and my interpretation of it, getting back to choice in the matter of the kind of person I declared I would be from that moment on also begins to create some space, also begins to create some room to move ie some new freedom and some new possibility around the source incident which all future incidents are reminded of. It's more than that, actually. I declared I'd be a certain kind of person from the moment of the source incident on. Clearly that declaration powerfully impacted my life from then on. So now or at any time from now on, I can just as powerfully declare I'll be a new or another kind of person - with, from now on, just as much (if not more) intentionality and impact. There's a contextual shift. The upset, impatience, and sadness start to break up and disappear ... effortlessly ... just in the process of life itself. |
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