Conversations For Transformation: Essays Inspired By The Ideas Of Werner Erhard

Conversations For Transformation

Essays By Laurence Platt

Inspired By The Ideas Of Werner Erhard

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Relating To Source

Cowboy Cottage, East Napa, California, USA

July 2, 2021

"Don't speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn't know the difference. Words are energy and cast spells, that's why it's called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself and you can change your life. What you're not changing, you're also choosing."
... Bruce Lee, martial artist
This essay, Relating To Source, was written at the same time as It's OK If The Guru Is Irritable.

I am indebted to Mark Spirtos and to Rose Carman who inspired this conversation, and to Harry Rosenberg who contributed material.

Transformation is a gift, an extraordinary gift, a gift sourced by people (that's where it comes from: its source is people). And a source person  is someone who sources people to source transformation. Being around a source person (tersely said: being around source)  is unlike being around any other kind of person anywhere.

That's an assertion that's likely to be discovered to be true by just about everyone everywhere. No, it's neither a rule and nor is it a belief. Rather, it's just a what's so. But I'd be hard-pressed to say why  it's true for so many. It just is. Some things in life are just "just is" - indeed, some of the greatest  things in life are just "just is".

To be around source is to discover who we really are (we discover who we really are, in conversations for transformation with source). If you ask people who you can tell demonstrate the ability to be who they really are as their natural Self-expression, how they discovered being this way like a possibility, the vast majority would admit / 'fess up to something like "While being in a conversation with (source), I discovered / suddenly got who I might be really like a possibility. It just ... popped.".

As stoopidly trite and simplistic as it might sound, access to our true nature travels this way. Someone speaks it from their life. We listen. We hear it. We get it. Then it establishes itself in our lives. Why does it work this way? I don't know. It just does (as a reminder, transformation and our access to it don't fit into our categories).

Wait: if everyone gets it from source, then who did the source we got it from, get it from? One answer to that  question, is: from true  source. True source is that rare, remarkable kind of human being, someone who intentionally generates a context in a conversation for transformation out of nothing, a context / conversation in which we discover who we really are. True source may or may not have gotten it from someone else - or may have gotten facets  of it from someone else / different people.

So another important part of the answer to the question, is: ... and true source may have simply figured it out for themself  ... or  ... true source may have been in the right place at the right time for Life itself  to reveal it to them ... or  ... true source may have put themself  in the right place at the right time for Life itself to reveal it to them. Regardless of which-ever  way it happens / happened, getting it is the  defining moment of truth  for true source, the genesis  of a new possibility for being.

A good friend of mine (an extraordinary  world-leader, and one of my most trusted coaches) and I, were wondering about (batting the idea around) what it's like to be in love  with true source - like: is it feasible to be in love with true source in the same way as we're ordinarily in love with someone we relate to? No it's not. Being in love with true source, is unlike being in any other relationship. Being in love with true source, is a relationship around which all  parties (including all of its observers) are called to be who they really are all the time  with full integrity. None of that other reactivated stuff  which commonly shows up in ordinary non-source relationships, is appropriate here. It just doesn't work. It doesn't fit. Try as we might, it simply doesn't / won't take root in it. All our attempts to manipulate it, get cut off - and fail.

I've begun gauging the sheer extraordinariness of being in relationship / being in love with true source. And I've discovered I can't be in relationship with true source (which is to say, I can't be in love with true source) as "little boy" (a reactivatable, needy identity from my past). It just plain doesn't work that way - which is to say I can't make it work  that way. I can only be in relationship / in love with true source and make it work, as "Big  Man" (a possibility invented like a stand for the future).

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