In this conversation there are two possible connotations of "survival".
First, there's the connotation of "survival" as "staying alive" ie as "not (physically) dying". But recognize there's not necessarily any inherent A*L*I*V*E*N*E*S*S in "staying alive".
Survival / staying alive in this sense simply means "doing whatever needs to be done in order to not die". And again, there's not necessarily any inherent A*L*I*V*E*N*E*S*S in not dying. For that matter, there's not necessarily any inherent A*L*I*V*E*N*E*S*S in being alive either. A*L*I*V*E*N*E*S*S is a generated quality. Survival / staying alive / even being alive, isn't enough to ensure it. A*L*I*V*E*N*E*S*S as I'm proposing it here is not your birthright. You're not born with it - no one is. If you don't generate it, it doesn't exist for you.
Second, there's the connotation of "survival" as "persisting the same old same old business as usual going through the motions behaviors over and over and over again". Rather than survival as "not (physically) dying", this is survival of the ego - if you will.
It's this second connotation of "survival" I'm using in the context of this conversation. This is the connotation of survival ie survival of the ego, I assert for which we're quite willing to trade aliveness.
It takes a big person to 'fess up to their survival behaviors' persistence having less to do with them being somehow stamped in our brain and more to do with us choosing to keep them going because of what we get from them ie because of the payoff we get from keeping them going.
Notice complaining about the results of survival behaviors doesn't preclude getting some benefit ie some payoff from keeping them going.
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