Conversations For Transformation: Essays Inspired By The Ideas Of Werner Erhard

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Attracted To Dance

Cowboy Cottage, East Napa, California, USA

September 6, 2016



This essay, Attracted To Dance, is the first in the tenth trilogy Questions For A Friend:
  1. Attracted To Dance
  2. I Told A Friend I Love You
  3. Terse Transformed Communication
in that order.
The first trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Prelude
  2. Ask Me Anything
  3. Coming Around Again
in that order.
The second trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Familiar Unfamiliar Territory
  2. Interview
  3. Straight Talk
in that order.
The third trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Dancing With My Mouth
  2. Cave Paintings
  3. Velvet Tsunami
in that order.
The fourth trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Creating Creating
  2. Tell Me Something About Nothing
  3. Lucid Disclosures
in that order.
The fifth trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Closer And Closer
  2. Tête À Tête
  3. Dancing With Life
in that order.
The sixth trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. What Would I Ask You If I Could Ask You Anything?
  2. Wonderings About Nothing In Particular
  3. Tipping Point
in that order.
The seventh trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Beyond Breathing Underwater
  2. Bold Faced Truth
  3. What You Create For Yourself About Me
in that order.
The eighth trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Once In A Lifetime
  2. Fireside Chat
  3. Whole And Complete
in that order.
The ninth trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. Questions For A Friend
  2. Nothing Else I'd Rather Be Doing
  3. Free To Be And Free To Act
in that order.
The eleventh trilogy Questions For A Friend is:
  1. A Context Worth Playing In
  2. Tie The Brush To My Hand
  3. Questions For A Friend XI III (working title)
in that order.



This is the beginning of the tenth trilogy in the ongoing Questions For A Friend collection of trilogies in this Conversations For Transformation internet series of essays. To be sure, it's not the tenth anniversary  of the Questions For A Friend collection (since the beginning of the first trilogy in this collection until today, only seven and a half years have elapsed - not quite a decade). However these Questions For A Friend exchanges aren't scheduled exactly annually. Rather they're scheduled using a fluid and malleable yet complex algorithm which takes into account all such similar exchanges including Visits With A Friend and Conversations With A Friend whenever they've been scheduled, spreading all three of them out as evenly as possible, allowing for the best and the most efficient and the most appropriate use of our time.

Each of the ten trilogies in this ongoing Questions For A Friend collection of trilogies, are built around ten questions for a total of one hundred questions, ninety of which have been posed so far (given this, the tenth trilogy, is still a work in progress). And of the ninety questions posed so far, twenty eight of them have been answered (for a decent statistic of 31%), each of which I've presented on this Conversations For Transformation website accompanied by a minimalistic commentary.

My purpose in providing only a minimalistic commentary is to re-create each exchange for you, then get myself as far out of your way as possible so you can get the full impact of them for yourself - directly, unmitigated, and undistracted (you definitely  don't want moi  view of them imposing on what it's possible for you to get from them for yourself). Furthermore, the fact that each and every one of the ninety questions posed so far have not been answered, isn't an error. Neither does it represent anything lacking, wrong, or overlooked. Rather it's built in  to the design of this Questions For A Friend collection of trilogies. What do I mean by that?

If you were compiling ten Questions For A Friend yourself, one way to do it would be to compile any old ten questions, then sit back and wait for answers. That's OK ... but it's also inauthentic. It assigns the onus of generating the value in the exchange, to him to whom the questions are directed. It carries no responsibility  for coming up with great questions worthy of the occasion and the privilege. That's why in each of the ten Questions For A Friend collection of trilogies, I've gone to great lengths to come up with ten questions worthy of the occasion and the privilege. Listen: each collection of ten questions hasn't taken ten seconds or even ten minutes to come up with. Rather they've taken me anywhere from ten hours  through (in some cases) ten days  to come up with. When the time scheduled to pose new questions gets closer, I'm never without a notepad and pencil (including in my pocket when I'm working out, on my dashboard when I'm driving, and by my bed when I'm sleeping) to capture ideas and inspirations which come up that I can deploy generating questions worthy of these unique opportunities, these priceless occasions.

The truth is I'm also open to being trained / coached to recognize exactly what makes a question worthy  of this unique occasion, and what doesn't. And so I take it as included in this process of coming up with each group of ten Questions For A Friend, that all of them may not be answered. It's more than that actually. It's that being out-here on the bleeding edge  of generating these questions, not knowing whether any particular one will be answered or not, is a critical aspect  of this entire process (Gee! I hope you get that ...). If I intend for you to be attracted to dance  with me, I can't lay the onus on you. Rather I need to be responsible for generating myself as an attractive enough dancer so you'll want to dance with me as much as I want to dance with you. In this way, my answered questions train and coach me. Yet just as surely and importantly, my unanswered questions also  train and coach me. So it's all  good. It's 100%. But then again, it's You. So it's closer to 1,000%.

Let the good times (continue to) roll!



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