Without transformation, I'd like you to consider real possibility isn't possible. Instead, all that's possible is changing things, adding to existing situations, or taking things away. It's a huge challenge to speak transformation when it isn't already present, when the entire group isn't already enrolled. But when the entire group is already enrolled, speaking transformation can be akin to preaching to the choir.
"Preaching to the choir" is an expression for speaking to ie for enrolling people who are already enrolled. When enrollment is no longer required, let the good times roll!
One requirement when speaking transformation in a space of no transformation is dealing with the inevitable resistance to transformation. And the thing about resistance to transformation is while it shows up as personal, it's never personal.
It takes a certain speaking and listening to create space for the resistance, to have a conversation for transformation which takes the resistance into account and even expects it, lets it be ie allows for it yet isn't sidelined by it. It takes a certain speaking and listening transformation in the face of resistance to have the resistance disappear by itself in the face of what's possible. It takes a certain speaking and listening transformation in the face of resistance to not be drawn in to meeting the resistance like an attack. The advantage is lost the moment you're drawn in to meeting the resistance like an attack.
One particular kind of resistance to transformation is intellectual resistance. Intellectual resistance can show up as philosophically debating against the possibility of transformation. It's a common defense. It's a defense which attempts to trump transformation with intelligence. It's the same defense which is often deployed against new ideas when they're presented. However, when you're speaking and listening transformation, there's nothing to be gained by getting drawn into the debate, con or pro. There's no point in attempting to out-philosophize the resistance. It simply doesn't work. The philosophical debate when deployed against transformation, is a defense. Getting drawn into debating the defense reinforces the defense.
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