Conversations For Transformation: Essays Inspired By The Ideas Of Werner Erhard

Conversations For Transformation

Essays By Laurence Platt

Inspired By The Ideas Of Werner Erhard

And More

A Master At Being (And Having People Be)

Montecito Boulevard, Napa, California, USA

September 24, 2015

This essay, A Master At Being (And Having People Be), is the twenty sixth in the complete group of Experiences Of A Friend (click here for the open group Experiences Of A Friend II):
  1. Stepping Back
  2. At Home As Self
  3. Empty Windows
  4. Futile Like A Freedom
  5. Shut Up And Do What You're Doing
  6. Werner As Intention
  7. Who He Is For Himself
  8. Source Quote
  9. Puzzle Solved, Mind Unraveled
  10. Eye To Eye
  11. Mystical Connection II
  12. Relentless
  13. Being Around Werner
  14. Being Always In Action
  15. Shaken Up And Teary
  16. On Being Sad
  17. The Complete Presentation
  18. Force Of Nature
  19. Everyone's In Love With Everyone
  20. I'm Old School
  21. Werner At The Speed Of Choice
  22. I Get Who You Are From What They Do
  23. The Significance - Not What Happened
  24. You Know I Love You - And I Know You Love Me
  25. Speaking To People's Relationship With Werner
  26. A Master At Being (And Having People Be)
  27. Werner As Source
  28. A Man Who's All There
  29. My Heart And You
  30. Mind Control
  31. Again And Again And Again And Again And Again And Again
  32. Unwavering
  33. The Leadership Course III: Pillar Of The Community
  34. American Genius
  35. Legacy II
so far, in that order.

I am indebted to Charlene Afremow who inspired this conversation.

In the two intersecting and enduring platforms of my life from which sprang this internet series of essays (writing computer software ie information technology, and Self-expressing transformation in writing), I'm self-taught. That said, I would be seriously amiss if I didn't acknowledge I've also learned a lot in both these areas, from many people in many walks of life. As anyone who's engaged in the work of transformation knows, when you experience transformation in any area of life, you've got people to thank  (and if you say no you don't, then you should check your authenticity meter very thoroughly: it may be malfunctioning).

I'd be living my life as a walking fraud ie I'd be living my life as an impostor  if I didn't acknowledge my teachers and mentors and friends for the contribution they make to my life ie for what they make possible in my life - or, said more rigorously, for the contribution they make to my life which empowers me to invent possibility for myself  in my life (and frankly, without the latter, the ongoing value of any  contribution would be in doubt ie it would be in question, if not in jeopardy).

In this regard, I'm referring to learning from them the kinds of things which aren't taught in schools or in colleges, although when it comes to the arts and to literature (poetry in particular), I've received many mentored references to them which convey critical ideas brilliantly, and which I subsequently included in my own repertoire. Specifically, there's a small committed group of mavericks  I thank for making a pointed contribution to my life, a contribution from which I get nothing more (and nothing less) than just being  with people. Of all the forms of interactions that can possibly go on between people, there's arguably none as elemental as, none as all encompassing as, none as all embracing as, none as basic as, and none even as eternal  as just being with people.

I learned being with people very easily from them: by observing and experiencing the way they be with me (call me a sponge  if you will, in my study methods: it's true, and it works well). It really gets to the heart of what we are as human beings. And because it gets to the heart of what we are as human beings, it takes all the effort out of being with people. When there's no effort in being with people, people with whom I'm being, have no effort in being with me in return. Subsequently (and this is how my mentors' contributions land for me) it creates the possibility of them experiencing no effort in being who they are for themselves, so that others with whom they be, experience no effort in being who they are for themselves, and on and on and on. This means the contribution I received, then also spontaneously continues. Colloquially this is a gift that keeps on giving. But it's way different than a milquetoast  contribution. It's a vast, life-altering, breakthrough contribution.

Of one such person, I've said he isn't just a master at being: he's also a master at having people be. If that were all he is, and if that were the only impact he produces, it would be enough. But it's more than that. It's once people experience him being and having them be, they in turn are empowered to be that way for others. In other words, he's a master at being and  at having people be, so that they spontaneously develop their own mastery at being and having people be. This, when you get down to it, is a litmus test of (his) mastery. And it's easily gotten and quickly travels from person to person to person.

There are others who display similar mastery at being, some of whom have even mastered ensuring their mastery quickly travels to other people, yet haven't ensured their mastery quickly travels from other people to other people, and on and on and on. They haven't done the background inquiries and / or developed ways to ensure this happens. That, by the way, doesn't diminish the enormity of their contributions. What it does  do is make him someone I'll keep on keeping my eyes and ears on.

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