The thing is you're between a rock and a hard place.
If you can just get it exactly the way it is and exactly the way it
isn't, you can let it be, or at least include it the way it is.
Why don't you look in the mirror and decide you don't like your face
the way it is - and see how far you get with that one. When you can let
things be the way they are and the way they aren't, you can transform a
lot, even the untransformable.