The
intention
of
this essay
is to tease out where "something
bigger
than oneself" could be located, without
trapping
you or me in any hallowed
myth
that this is the rightanswer
(it's surely not the only one).
Don't believe
this
inquiry
(you
don't believe
a pipe wrench: you
use
it; if it doesn't
work
you
get
another one). Rather, try it on for size. Discover it for
yourself. If what it teases out is useful, keep it:
it's yours
- there's no charge. If it's not, then discard it - and thank you for
trying it on.
If I,
standing
in
front
of you, ask "Where are you?", you may
answer
"I'm here" - and you may even add a petulant "... of
course!" because on the
face
of things, it may appear to be a
stoopidquestion
("What do you
mean'Where are you?' Can't you see me? I'm
here!"). Actually it's quite revealing. What it shows is our
thrownway
of
considering
where "oneself" is located, is "here". By inference, it also
shows our thrown
way
of
considering
where I am located for you, on the other hand, is
"there", yes?
For this
inquiry,
I would venture even further than that. If I,
standing
in front of you, ask "Where are you?", you may even
answer
not "I'm here" but rather "I'm in here" (pointing to your
head). I assert our thrown
way
of
considering
where "oneself" is located, is more specifically "in
here", and and our thrown
way
of
considering
where everyone else is located (and indeed
the world
itself too), is not just "there": it's "out there".
That said, I suggest this thrown
way
of
considering
where "oneself" is located as "in here", and where everyone else is
located (and indeed
the world
itself too) as "out there", is not merely more
bass-ackwards than
considering
the sun revolves around
the Earth:
it's more like
considering
the sun revolves around "oneself". It reduces us to
little
more than rubber-neckers merely gawking at (ie onlookers to, but not
full participants in) the unfolding of (and even the living of) our own
lives.
Now around about this
moment
in
transformational
inquiries
(ie around about now in many
conversations for
transformation)
when we're confronting the oftentimes dire underlying
gravity
of what's distinguished, we
begin
asking "OK how do we
fix
this?" or "How do we
change
this?" or even "How do we
get
out of this?" (ie "How do we
get
out of the
trap
of the untransformed life?"). And the
answers
are "We don't", "We don't", and "We can't.". We're thrown
to be
this way,
remember? And we're thrown to be
"this way"
as assuredly as we're thrown to be bipedal mammals.
Fixing
and
changing
and
getting-out-ofsimply
aren't options.
What is an option, however, is
transforming
the
context
in which we're thrown to hold "oneself". We can
recontextualize
(I
love
that
word)
where we
consider
"oneself" to be located. We can invent a new possibility for
being
"oneself" rather than grinding in
the same old same
old
"I'm here (ie I'm in here)" and it's
related
"You're there (ie you're out there).". Indeed, inventing a
new possibility for
being
"oneself", is arguably the only
worthwhile
option ie
the only game in town.
Inventing a new possibility for
being
"oneself" (which is to say
recontextualizing
where we
consider
"oneself" to be located),
begins
with
simplyobserving
where life and living reallyhappen,
and by inference where our lives really
happen.
So the
question
is: where do life and living really
happen?
and: where do our lives really
happen?
Consider
this: life and living
happen
not "out there" ("out there" separates us from
the world;
worse, it
traps
us "in here"). Rather (as
Werner
distinguishes) life and living
happen
"out-here".
Be careful: that's not a typo. It's not "out there". It's life
and living
happen
"out-here".
And neither is it life and living
happen
"out here". It's
"out-here".
That hyphen is critical (if you
speak
"out-here"
for yourself ie if you language it for yourself, you'll
get
it). Our lives really
happenout-here,
not "in here". The only aspects of our lives which
happen
"in here" are automatic
machinery embedded in
hamburger.
Another
way
of saying that, is this: when it's newly located
out-here,
"oneself" is something
bigger
than what we once
considered
it to be (as in we once
considered
"oneself" to be located "in here"). Also notedly (and this is much more
than just a mere aside), when we're
out-here,
whatever's going on with us internally ie whatever's going on with us
"in here", loses its immediacy (you've already experienced this, yes?).
It
simply
stops taking up so much bandwidth (if you will).